I’ll start this off by letting you know this is a work in progress for me. In 20’s I worked close to 70 hours a week and partied like it was 1999… a lot. I tend to pack as much as I can into a day. Is that bad? I’m not sure… I do know if it’s all work and no play Kristy is a tired lady!
But what is a balance life? Who decides what is the right mix of “things”. My answer to that is ultimately you will decide and find your own balance. So here are some of the things I found have helped me START to life a more balanced life. (I say that as I would for about 10 hours today).
My name is Kristy and I am a workaholic. (Hi Kristy…) They say the first step is admitting it…. 1 down 11 to go. Even since my first job at 15 , where I was paid under the table I have always worked the max amount of hours I could. When I was old enough, I worked 2 jobs. After college I worked from 6:00am- 9:00pm most days. I also picked up a bartending job so my weekends were until 3:00am. (back at it for 8:00am). Yes, driven and stupid at the same time. Why do I work so much? One of my fears is not being able to pay my bills. I could have $100k in the bank and I would still get anxiety when it come to paying bills. Why? Because I am crazy…. well less crazy now. I always worried about the “what if”s of life.
How am I finding balance with work?– I learned to say “NO”. I would work crazy hours just to fit work in: up earlier, work late, work everyday…. It’s not healthy! I was missing out on my life. I joke with clients and say Life gets in the way of living… but it doesn’t have to. I learned to set a schedule and still to it. Also, that my time is valuable! I don’t just take on every person that wants to work with a personal trainer, the client has be deciatied to their goal! That doesn’t mean they are 100% at achieving their goal… but also long as they are working towards it, I have time for them.
Lastly, I have found that my clients are happier knowing their trainer/coach takes a day off. Yes, I still work long days, but I shut down work Tuesday night after 7:00pm until Thursday at 6:00am. (baby steps) ha
One of my favorite things is Sunday with my family. Sometimes we do nothing at all! Sometimes the whole family comes over and we sit around the kitchen just talking. If we are really lucky my Aunt Tina makes dinner! AMAZING! ha
After living in the mid west for several years and missing out on birthday parties, Thanksgivings, and Christmas, I learned you can’t get that time back…. Life is about the experiences with the people you care about... Cheesy I know… but true. I missed my little brother growing up…. I can’t go back to see him play t-ball but I can make time when he has a lacrosse game now. No, I wont make it to all the games, but if I can get to some… that is balance to me.
I have lived in a few different areas, I have friends all over the place. We all have lives… some are married, some have kids, some are living the single life…. no matter what they are doing or what I am doing. I make it a point to check in with them. It’s not a daily thing, but when I have a moment I make sure I send them some love.
One of my favorite quotes is “Friends are like stars. You may not always see them, but they are always there.” I think TV makes us think we need to live next door and climb through your Bff’s window, or you have to meet every night for cocktails. I disagree. I think if you check in and set friend-date nights when you can it’s shows you care.
My me time is my workouts, trips to target, walking my dog, and reading a good book before bed. My “me-time” is doing something that make me a better person. If that is taking a nap one day then that’s what I do… if it’s listening to a podcast while I drive to my next job, I do that. The goal of me time is to do whatever if is to make me feel good. If I don’t feel good I’m not a good trainer, coach, wife, daughter, or friend.
People ask me a lot how to I balance my training for fitness competitions with living a “real life”
My answer to that… I remember why I started training for shows in the first place. It’s a goal. If I want to achieve it I need to stay on plan. It’s that simple. I can still enjoy going to a friends wedding, going out with the girls for dinner, watch my husband eat pizza while I eat chicken, work 10 hours a day and still get my workout in… It’s about being strong to sticking to what your first set out to do.
How do I do this-
I meal prep and eat what I prep.
I plan and eat my cheat meals when I have an event, or for date night.
I go to bed earlier, and get up earlier.
I drink a lot of water.
I don’t eat dunkin donuts (like I would love to) because I remember that even though a chocolate glaze munchkin is very tasty… my goal is more important and more fulfilling.
It’s a hobby that now I can get paid… if I win… But its not the end all be all… what is? Not missing out on life… but again, life isn’t eating and drinking, it’s spending time and with those you care about most.
In closing, Chris Bailey the Author of the Productivity Project says, “The less time you give yourself to complete a task, the better you will do it.” What does that mean? Like I said at the start of this… I am a work in progress. I still try to fit a lot into a day, but when I sent goals/ time limits for all areas of my limit I find it’s time well spent.
I make sure my clients feel appreciated.
I leave the phone at home on date night.
I check in with friends just to let them know that ever thought we doesn’t see each other I’m still thinking of them.
I check in with myself… honestly and openly.
I eat real food… whether it’s out of tupperwave or on a plate.
This is my balance.