I know I’m not alone in this but I have a crap ton of goals… At least 1 in each area of my life.
Self- Mediate everyday.
Body- Maintenance a healthy body weight.
Mind- Read 1 new article a day.
Family- Put the phone away on Wednesday.
Business- Help at least 2 new people a week.
Financial- Save and buy a house in a year.
Friends/social- email/ text/ call friends once a month to check in with them. (I know this doesn’t seem like a lot but it’s realistic).
Ok, now you know my goals lets get to the meat and potatoes of this blog…
5 Tips that will help you achieve any goal! Whether it’s your fitness, life, or business goal all these tips can be appealed to each area. These tips are not something I made up, but come from the great Tom Robbins and the Female Entrepreneur Association.
1. Turn your SHOULDs into MUSTs
My mind is always going with ideas or thoughts that I need to do (example the list above). Just a tip about me… if I’m not saying anything it’s because I’m thinking about 5 things I want/ need to do.
So often we say “I should workout”, “I should save x amount each paycheck” “I should call that friend” but we don’t. I have found two things happen… either you fill yourself with things you don’t need to do to evolved that SHOULD or you just put it off thinking you can do it later.
This is one of my “works in progress things”. I over think about my “to do” which creates anxiety. What do I do to stop this? I take action! When you do that SHOULD it’s like a rocket that pushes you forward into your goals.
This is a little sad, but think about it these way… If you knew you were going to die in 6 month would you have any more SHOULD or would they be DONES??? We think later will be a better time or we are so scared about what will happen if we actually achieve our goals… OR that we will fall flat on our faces, so we do nothing. We need to stop being stuck By SHOULDs and be motivated by MUST.
What’s on your SHOULD list? (leave a comment) We’ll be accountable together.
2. DON’T LISTEN TO THE VOICES IN YOUR HEAD
How do we stop our OWN limiting believes… When you have Negative thoughts it’s because you think what you can accomplish and your goal are on different levels. It’s our fear of X that is stopping us. An example from me was this blog: Not being able to read or spell is a challenge… and I know the blogs aren’t perfect… Every time I write a blog I worry about the spell and grammar but the fact of the matter is if the point gets to you then that’s a win.
So how do I get over the self doubt? I write out my fears or speak them to my support system. When you make your fears or your “shortcomings” known they have less power over you.
Remember success is 80% mental and 20% actions. Stop getting in our own way… YOU can do anything…
Take a moment to think of the most amazing thing you thing of… The light bulb, AIRPLANES, living a balanced life (Yes, that is just as amazing to me as a 300,000 lb machine flying in the air) and of course yoga pants! 🙂
The people that dreamed of these things believed their goals could be real! They failed many times, but they kept pushing forward until they accomplished their dream. Yes, money, time, and not knowing where to start, were all things that stood in their way. But once they deiced to take action they BELIEVED they would achieve greatness.
3. Get in control of your emotions
Ok, you started your goals… along this path you hit your obstacles. An example of this is Show prep. When you have a goal it is not going to be happen:
1- Over night.
2- In a straight line.
There is going to be physical and mental ups and downs. The faster you can shake your self out of the low moments the easier the journey will be. It goes hand and hand with the tip above. If you listen to your own negative self talk you will be dragged down. If you let your emotions control you instead of you controlling your emotions you will be a victim of “feeling” instead of “doing”. This will make it hard to do the things that “should” be done… see how it all comes together.
4. Find someone that has achieved what want to do!
If you want to the next Sherly Sandberg, step one would be find out how she became “Sherly Sandberg”. DO YOUR RESEARCH! Facebook, email, listen to their podcast. These people paved the way for other to follow. It is not a sign of weakness to ask questions. It a sign of intelligence and a drive to want more. One of my favorite sayings, “You don’t have to reinvent the wheel… but you can add your own rims”.
If there is no one out there doing what you want to do, look up success for people in different areas. Success is success… meaning the action you take is what will lead you to the end goal.
5. Be Grateful
When you are grateful for what is going on in your life it’s very hard to be negative. My challenge to you is every day write down or at least think of 1-3 things you are grateful for. This tip alone has helped me flip my “poor me days” around.
A few weeks ago I was in a bad spot mentally, with this tip in mind I sent a message to people who have been in my life at different stages and thanked them/ told them how grateful I was to have them in my life. The messages I got back where so empowering, it took me out of my funk. With less negative moments I am able to be a better person for the people in my life. Which in the end is really the success I’m looking for.
Keep moving forward!