Why I didn’t blog during my pregnancy

Well hello there! It’s been a while.  You look great!

Oh, this… ya I had a baby, crazy right!

Enough small talk.  I know I kinda left you hanging, but not really because I was cheating on you with my podcast, Champion Chat 360. Sorry?!  I don’t have to spell check the Podcast.  You can listen to the podcast here Champion Chat 360 Itunes. It will give you some more insight if you want on the week to week updates through this past year.

Before I got pregnant I planned on blogging about my pregnancy in hopes to give insights to others.  As the weeks went by I started to realize:

1- I had no answers to help others

For someone that likes to have answers it was tough! I know I don’t know everything, but before pregnancy I thought I knew a good amount. I was wrong. Yes, I know what  glycolysis is, and how to get the glute to activate in a lunge. But pregnancy was a strange new world to me.

It’s amazing how far we have come in understanding the science of pregnancy, but there are still so many questions. Questions like,  why at any moment I hated everyone! 🙂 Yes, I know it’s hormones but WHY? Why do some pregnant women have mood swings like I did, what is the purpose of it.  Because of that I didn’t feel like I could give people answers to why things where or where not happening.

I didn’t want to give information to people that wont facts for them. I didn’t want to lead them to worry or become discouraged. Be pregnant is hard enough, we don’t need more to worry about. Which leads me to may next point.

2-It really is different for everyone.

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Some ladies have morning sickness. Some turn into raging bitches. Some gain 70lbs. Some “glow” the whole time (think of the movie What to Expect When Expecting).

Sure there are some things that are explained in most pregnancy books, but for most first time preggors it’s full of questions.  There are so many things that go into it I didn’t know about. They say your Mother’s pregnancy is a good indicator of what your pregnancy will be.  But some of us are having children later in life.  My Mother had me at 16. Her body was much different than my 32 year old body.  My Mother never worked out. She wasn’t told what to eat or not to eat for the most part. And she didn’t have the health care I was able to have.

What I do know is what happen to me.  So I will write about my journey from being pregnant and the road back.  Back to where? I’m not sure yet, but I’m bring you along. Promise. 🙂

Meghann’s Story

Life isn’t about being “fat” or “skinny”, it’s about being comfortable in your on skin. It’s all about what’s going on between each ear. This is Meghann’s story and how she realized that being “skinny” and “living” off of 700 calories a day wasn’t actually Life. 

-Kristy

When I sat down to right this blog post for Kristy I was really focused at first on how to tell my story without making myself sound pathetic. Then I realized that much of what has happened as a result of my decisions is kind of pathetic. So be it. It is my story.

I married when I was 20. The day I walked down the aisle my dad said to me before we walked down the aisle you don’t have to do this and I said I know Dad and I bawled all the way down the aisle because I didn’t want to do it. I was so afraid to disappoint people- this became a running theme for my 20’s.

I was married for 10 years to a good man. We had three beautiful kids together but I wasn’t happy and in the end I don’t think either of us was. There were a lot of mistakes on my part and the experience of divorce took a toll on my family that was unrelenting for years to come. I have spent many years trying to reconcile the guilt I feel for how the divorce impacted the three people that I love the most my children. Nothing could ever take that scar from them and I constantly worry that the pain will follow them forever into their adult lives where they may become unable to have a happy successful relationship. This is my why- it is critical that I give them the best Mom I can be.

It was then that I found out that although I couldn’t control my kids’ feelings, my feelings, the stress of covering all the costs alone, and my future what I could control was my weight. I felt so small and I developed a mindset that my outside should match my inside. It was then that I lost 15 pounds of muscle and became a shell of my former self. People at work started to ask if I was sick, family members worried that I was on drugs and my kids even would wrap their arms all the way around me and tell me I was way to small.

When I first met Kristy I told her how I was proud of my ability to live on under 1000 calories a day. I told her about my extensive Insanity/ cardio workouts and how I was so very proud of my ability to be 5’9 128 pounds. She looked at me with a smile and support and provided me with a lifting/eating plan for 30 days.

The first month with her I struggled to eat the food that she told me to eat. It was a complete change of mindset for me. I literally was living on two meals a day before I met her. Now I eat 5-6 times a day with reminders from my body that actually recognizes hunger again.

I am proud to say that I stuck with it and trusted her advice. With her advice I have gained 8 necessary pounds. That 8 pounds means  normal menstrual cycles and no more foggy brain. I now have a strong muscular body.

Most importantly and I cannot stress this enough- My outside matches my inside in a way that I am proud of.  I am connecting with my children in ways that I wasn’t able to when I was surviving on 700 calories a day. I am seeing the little moments in the day that I know I was missing before when I was foggy and grumpy from lack of food. I know that this change that I have made in my life thanks to Kristy’s guidance will allow my children to have a healthy relationship with food and exercise. My goal is that the Mom I bring them every day is the strong, loving, funny and smart Mom they deserve.

 

What NOT to do when preparing for your first show

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The other day I was speaking with a woman that is starting her first competition prep.  I asked if she had any questions for me.

She did, “What is a mistake you made, that you would change?”

Huh! That is a great questions that I don’t get really ever.  Normally I’m asked what my secret is, which we have already established is hard work and discipline. This question is great because this sport is a bit of a guessing game, because the target is always moving. I asked a few IFPA Pro’s that I respect because they are genuine, thoughtful, and really tell it like it is. It was interesting but not shocking that a lot of the IFPA Pros had the same thoughts when I asked them this question.

 

TIP OF WHAT NOT TO DO IN WHEN PREPPING.

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ALYSSA POLISANO- IFPA BIKINI

Don’t stalk girls Instagram fitness models and think that the process is so beautiful and easy because it’s not in reality ins very challenging. People tend to follow these “model” accounts and think you should look shredded everyday all year! It’s just not realistic.

 

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BRANDY CRAY- IFPA BODYBUILDING

Don’t have expectations. …if you place first or last,you are doing something that the majority of people would not be able to endure..if you walk on that stage knowing you have done everything in your control to be your personal best YOU have already won.

 

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GREG TROMBLY- IFPA BODYBUILDING

Don’t forgot you need carbs (you and your coach will figure out how many and the other details)!

 

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JENN SAMM-IFPA FIGURE & PHYSIQUE

Do not compare yourself to other competitors that you see on social media! I’ve seen more than my fair share of newbies literally drop out after being PSYCHED out!

 

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JONATHAN LAVOIE- IFPA BODYBUILDING

Don’t to worry about the placing. This is a subjective sport and you can’t let that ride or die on the fun you should have during the day. Your first show is always a huge learning curve. Take the time to look around, talk to other competitors and learn what worked for you and what didn’t.

 

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XAVIER LEWIS- IFPA PHYSIQUE PRO

Don’t Be Nervous on Show Day: Chill out, relax, breathe. . You did it. You won. This is the culmination. You’ve stuck to the plan, you’ve sacrificed your lifestyle, you’re better. I always tell people, “This is the graduation!”. By completing this process, you’ve just grown immensely. Go on stage, do what you’ve prepared to do, and celebrate.

Remember.. Focus on becoming more, rather than obtaining more. There is joy in the process.

 

I’ll end with my DON’T… have to many chefs in the kitchen.   You will read, see, or even seek out advice from other… because you don’t know what you are doing! That’s ok…  you can try different theories, but you have to give each theory a chance to “work” or “not work”. When you do to many thing or change your plan to much you will never know what really worked for you.

 

Good luck to you and best wishes on your journey! Enjoy it… it’s one hell of a ride!

Sissy that Walk: Down the Road to the Cup- Part II

On to the Yorton

I had six weeks after the KC show to get a little leaner, but not to lean. No big deal right? BRRRR This is the tightrope we as Bikini competitors walk. If I lose too much weight then I would place lower for being too lean. If I filled out in a “bad way” I wouldn’t be lean enough.  In this time I fell “flat”  (for those that don’t know what that means- my muscles didn’t look as full/ my skin didn’t look as tight around my muscle).  Andrew saved the day by adding carbs/meal and cutting my cardio… so all and all “staying where I was, but a little lean” wasn’t THAT bad ha!

 

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As the weeks ticked on I started to second guess myself a little. I thought maybe I should change my posing. I thought “maybe I can’t place 1st… Maybe I’m look too Girl-Next-Door and not enough Victoria’s Secret…. Maybe I want a doughnut!?”

Then I was reminded of the advice my husband, one of the best athletes I know, once gave me:

“There are hundreds of players just as good as Michael Jordan or LeBron James… the difference is that MJ and LeBron KNOW they are the best.”

Imagine what we could do if we stopped second guessing ourselves…. (deep stuff there)

Because I’m not MJ or LeBron, I left myself little reminders that I was capable of achieve my goal.

I put post-its around my house: in the bathroom, on my nightstand and on the fridge door. I made myself a poster of me and the Yorton Cup and made it my screensaver on my iPad and phone. No matter where I looked I was reminded of my goal and the outcome I was working to make come true.  Yes, I know I can’t control what happens when I walk on stage, but I did know I could walk out there feeling like THE Kristy Leconte. (cheesy but true).

 

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Show Time

Normally the week leading up to a show I have a mental countdown.  This time it wasn’t like that.  People would check in on me… “How do you feel?” The answer… “Nothing. Really. It doesn’t seem like the show is in X days.” I was so focused on what I had to do in the moment that I wasn’t looking ahead.  During my cardio I put my hat on, hood up, closed my eyes and envisioned myself on stage (a tip from Andrew). With every meal I thought of how it was fueling my body to be the best it could be. With every posing practice I called upon my inner Diva, her name is Felicity.

The drive to the show was about nine hours.  I listened to a book I listened to earlier in my prep “The Champion’s Mind” which helped me stay mentally focused. There weren’t moments of doubt like I had in the past.

When I got to the check-in I was relaxed.  Normally I’d have a mini anxiety attack at that point. Maybe it’s the polygraph, or when they give you your numbers, that normally made me think and feel suddenly “this is real,” but this time… nothing.

Next, it was tanning time. Yvette and her team were amazing and took all the stress out of standing in a tent naked and cold! 🙂

After all of my “to do list” was done and it was just and my thoughts again, I wasn’t nervous. I visualized hitting my poses, my walk and being called as the Yorton Cup Champion over and over again.  I prepped my mind just like had done with my body.

Day of the show I drove to the venue cool as a cucumber, which again isn’t my normal state. I normally get a rush of heat, get watery eyed, with my heart racing, and it gets hard to breathe just for a minute. This time I was in what some athletes call a “flow state.”

Backstage I enjoyed seeing everyone I had stalked for months on Instagram and actually talking to them in person, but I didn’t lose sight of my goal. Oh don’t act like you don’t do it!

During prep judging I wasn’t moved at all, but I did realize that they put one of the competitors I knew would be one of the top competitors next to me. I didn’t focus on it. I just did what I had practiced for hours without second guessing myself (which yes… I had done on stage before).

I didn’t know where I going to place after prep judging, but you never know in this sport. I took the rest of the show to enjoy my time with my best friend and other competitors (really one of the best parts of show… the people you meet).

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Sissy that walk to the top five!

In our league our evening show is made up of our Twalks, a 60-90 sec stage walk that we do alone.  I enjoy this, but I normally just go with whatever music they play. This time I picked the song “Sissy That Walk” by Ru Paul (I watched a lot of Ru Paul Drag race during my cardio sessions). I knew every beat to the song… it was like Ru herself took over for the 90 secs (which was the longest I’d done before). I was in a little bit of “awe” with how great it felt!

Next thing I knew they were calling the top five out. I was the last one called. I was standing closest to the front of the stage, with each place I took a step closer to the remaining competitors.  Five, four, three… I took a deep breath and said to myself one more time (FIRST place Kristy). Second place was called… instantly tear rushed to my eyes.  HOLY SHIT… I DID IT! Cry face and all… I WON THE YORTON CUP (I’m a crier, ever since the first time I saw Bambi).  My best friend was there to hug, thank goodness because I was a little weak in the legs and in full cry at that point (thanks Heather… she hates hugs). By the time I was backstage the husband was there.  I threw my arms around his neck and he picked me up like he did on our first date 15 years ago.

The show was live-streamed and by the time I got to my phone I had a mess of text messages, facebook messages and posts, and a missed call from 2014 Yorton Cup Champion Danika Johnson. It was surreal! It wasn’t cloud nine…. it was higher than that! I had reached a dream I had strived for! Holy shit.. again I did it.

I know this post might not help you at first, but in closing (finally… this was a long post, I know) with no bullshit here (thanks Michael, Chuck, and Andrew for never letting me BS myself)… Stop getting in your own way.  For some reason we think everyone else has this secret power and that maybe if we just knew what that was we would be better. Well, I really hate to burst your bubble, but the only difference between you and “the winner” is… hard work. Listen…. the only thing that makes me different from you is probably time in the field, posing and understanding my body. Maybe you will come across a liar that says they didn’t have to diet or do cardio. Don’t let them fool you! It takes hours in the gym (both cardio and weights need to happen) and following an eating plan. Even IIFYM people cut down to chicken, turkey, rice and sweet potatoes in the end (don’t be fooled).

You will be at the gym for about 1-2 hours a day. You will eat 90% “clean foods”. You will get your sleep.  You might feel weird about eating out Tupperware, making a special order out or not eating with your friends and instead just going out with them to enjoy their company. This is only for a small period in your life. Like I’ve said in the past, remember your why! When times get tough (because they will, this is not an easy sport) you can cry a little, but suck that shit up and get back to working towards your goal!

YOU will get there! Keep moving forward.

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Sissy that Walk: Down the Road to the Cup- Part I

When I stepped off stage last year I thought I was walking away from competing.  I thought my competing years had come full circle, I placed in the same spot I did in my very first show.

I’m what you call a planner, or as Mark Wahlberg’s character in “Pain & Gain” so proudly said “I’m a doer!” Now that I was done competing it was time to started researching my next big goal.  Part of being “a doer” is believing that YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU TRULY WANT TO, but this year I was slapped in the face with reality. Even though you can do anything you set your mind to, sometimes there are factors outside of your control that you must work with. To make a long story short, these factors were telling me that my goals were not the right goals for me at this time.  It didn’t mean I wouldn’t achieve them, just that I needed to consider a different timeline.

So now you have “the doer,” the planner, with nothing to do.  Those little voices in my head (yes you read that right, you know you have them too) yelled “It’s time Kristy… pull the clear heels back out”.  I listened and said back (this is what makes me crazy by definition right?) “If I’m doing this I’m not f’ing around… I’m going to win.”

Some of you might think that seems odd… will win?… Haven’t you already won before Kristy? NOPE. I have never won a show.  Yes, I have placed at a lot of shows, but never won the overall.  Even my pro card was at a double pro qualifier, a show where two pro cards are giving out, at which I was the runner up. I know boo-hoo Kristy, you haven’t won when some people don’t even place.  Well, I’m sorry to those that haven’t placed, but I was tired of being a bridesmaid, never the bride. Your hippie-girl, girl-next-door types can want to win just as much as the bitchy cocky girls!

To be coached or not to be coached… that was the answer!

Normally I do my own prep because I’m cheap, really no other reason. But after speaking to a very respected bodybuilder about my “bridesmaid-ness,” I took his advice and hired a coach to help bring me towards the end of my prep.

As a “hear me roar” kind of woman, I really wanted to hire a woman.  I interview a few coaches, but none of them had “it.” There was one coach that did keep popping into my world, Andrew Berry; clearly not female. After speaking with him a few times I felt that working with him was the right decision. It was on like Donkey Kong.

What did I like about Andrew?

– He was strict.  No BS with him.  It was not a IIFYM diet, it wasn’t bro science, and it was based on real whole foods.  I was told what and when to eat. This works well for me because I really like the structure.
– He pushed me to try different types of exercise.
– He was, and is, very science-based and does the research behind EVERYTHING he recommends.
– He gives you the WHY behind the food, supplement, exercise.
– He didn’t let me doubt myself, but he also didn’t sugar coat anything.
– He cared about all my goals, not just my competitions.
– I had the goal, the coach, and the plan… now it was my job to do the work; and work I did!  I busted my ass. I pushed heavier weights, did my cardio, was in bed at 9pm and up at 3 am.  I even did the poor woman’s sauna (Where I kept my sweats on in my car with the heat on in the summer) HA … this was my idea not Andrew’s… we had a good laugh about it.

2015 Progress June to October
2015 Progress June to October

KC Classic

Before I could win the Yorton Cup (the IFPA’s World Championship) I had to qualify just to be able to step on that stage. At the time there were only two show left that I could compete in, The KC Classic and the Gaspari Pro.  Because I wasn’t going to compete this year, I wanted to keep my word that I would support my girlfriend as she competed in the Gaspari. So it was off to Kansas and Missouri (we never knew which state we were in at any given time while we were there!).

I like traveling for shows.  I try to make a mini vacation out of it. My girlfriend Megan was AMAZING and came to be my tanner (and butt gluer- a VERY important person to have “on staff” come show day!) With Andrew, Megan, my sponsor (Portland Nutrition Corner) and the support of friends/family I felt great.  It was the best I have ever looked.  Yes, competitors say that a lot, but if they keep getting better, which is normally the goal, it can be said every time.  But alas, I was a bridesmaid yet again, coming in second place. I wasn’t upset about the placement.  In this sport it can be the littlest things that will separate first through fifth place. I didn’t see it as a set back. I actually thought of second place as a motivator. I was so close to first place, I thought “I CAN DO THIS… I CAN WIN.”

One step closer to the cup… Stay tune for part two this week.

My second place first at the KC Classic 2015
My second place first at the KC Classic 2015

Client Feature: Casey. The Come Back Kid!

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‘WON’ Year in Review
I began working with Kristy WON year ago. I use the word ‘won’ because I feel like I did win! All the frustrating times I’ve had with the wrong diet, fad diets, too much cardio, not lifting heavy enough and on and on were solved by working with Kristy.
Summer was quickly approaching when I started my first month. I’ve learned in the past year that this is definitely a motivator for me, as it is for many people. I am very disciplined when I put my mind to it, so in the first 4 months I lost 21 pounds and 6% body fat. It took me another 2 months to lose the last 2-3% body fat to reach my ultimate goal, but my weight only went down 1 pound. I was absolutely okay with this because my weight hadn’t been that low in years! I learned that weight doesn’t always matter. It’s about your overall body composition and how you personally want to look and feel. To be honest, I felt fantastic after I dropped the first 9 pounds then another 6. I spent the summer feeling like a million bucks, and I hadn’t hit my ultimate goal yet. Kristy reminds me of this when I get upset about gaining weight. 🙂
Throughout the fall, I maintained this size, and then….Christmas, winter, winter vacation, cold weather, comfy sweaters…and weight gain. I told myself, I’m not eating THAT bad, or a little extra of this won’t hurt. As it turns out, a little extra peanut butter and epic cheat meals add up to 8 pounds for me. It took a while for me to process the WHY, but I finally did that and moved on. WHY? I like peanut butter. No. I love peanut butter. I kept sneaking in a little extra here and there and it added up. My cheat meal for the week became huge meals and dessert. While I do think that an EPIC cheat meal is okay once in a while, mine became epic every week. My cardio became basically taking a nap a couple times a week on the arc trainer.
In March, I said, alright this is enough. Kristy did all my numbers and I refocused. She remeasured me a month later and NOTHING HAD CHANGED. WTF. So, I told her I didn’t understand why, and like the amazing coach she is, she said, it’s okay, keep going. I left that day and started to think…yup, guess who had still been adding that extra little bit of peanut butter? ME. Here’s the reality…8 pounds to many people doesn’t sound like a big deal, and really, I was perfectly healthy and looked fine. However, that is not what I wanted. I knew what I wanted and how I wanted to feel. It’s all personal preference. I wanted to be back to how I felt last summer. I owned my behavior that was keeping me from my goals. NOW I was ready to focus. One month later, I was down 4 pounds and 3% body fat. The next month, another 5 pounds and another 1% body fat. My WHY clicked. If I want to be at a certain point, I figured out how to do it, and now I am down 22 pounds in a year. THANK YOU, KRISTY for always believing in me and asking that question I hate: WHY?!
Do I think I’ll repeat winter weight gain again this year? Yup, probably. I like Christmas cookies and pizza…oh and peanut butter in case I forgot to mention that before, but now I know how to get over it faster! Everything in life has ups and downs. Just remember you have the tools to push forward even in those frustrating times. I’ll reread this soon and take my own damn advice! Haha!
To wrap it up, I’ll leave you with these three things: 1. Kristy is a Wonder Woman who can provide you with the tools you need to become your own Wonder Woman (or man)! 2. Even when you are super frustrated always keep saying – YES I CAN! And you will. 3. Put shredded zucchini in your oatmeal because it’s delicious! 🙂

The Lazy Ladies Meal Prep

It is no secret, I am not a great cook.

When it comes to my food I keep it very simple. I don’t do any fancy sauces.  It doesn’t need to look pretty. Really, it just needs to be cooked enough so it wont kill me…. I know I set high standard.

Some days, like this weekend… after work, errands, and all the things that are on the to do list, I would rather sit on the couch and watch Adam Sandler movies prepping my meals is the last thing I want to do . Billy Madison may help make my abs better by laughing so hard (yes, I still laugh).  I know if I don’t do prep my meal I will have to either make food on a busier week day OR buy somethings pre-made… which hits the wallet and the macros more than I would like to.

A show of hands who has been there before? There’s no tricks and you still need to do it.  BUT here’s your promise to keep it simple!

Step 1: Make your plan for the week.

I normally make food for 6 days, leaving Wednesday as my “free” day. No, that does not mean I go out to eat or stay from my path really.  Normally, this meals I might  try my hand at making a fancy dinner (key word try) .

Step2: Make your shopping list for the store.

I write out my list to the oz/ servings I will need. This week:

Chicken 36 oz

Turkey 36 oz

Tuna 6 packs (which I forgot but I have 2 at home already)

Egg whites 3-4 different veggies for the 6 days (this week Green beans, Broccoli, Mushrooms, Asparagus)

Gluten Free bread

Quinoa/rice/ sweat potato

Apples

Coconut oil

Cottage Cheese

Hummus

This was all about $45 for the 6 days of food.

I already had:

Oats Nuts/ Nut Butter

Eggs

Protein powder

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Step 3: Plan your attack.

One of the reason I’m not a great cook is I can never get the timing down. Something is always done way before the rest of the things.  For meal prepping for the week that’s not a huge deal but I’m a clock racer… always trying to get one more thing done in a day.  This is also one of the “excuses” I get from my clients…. “Kristy, I just don’t have the time”… I say again, keep it simple.

Start time 7:30pm

Start oven and pan on stove.

Get the meats and the sweet potato going. Remember this is lazy meal planning so the sweet potatoes are washed and thrown into the microwave. (Yes, I know it’s not the best, but this is about quick and easy not if I’m going to die from eating microwaved foods).

Mrs. Dash is as creative as I get. This is the southwestern chipotle blend.
Mrs. Dash is as creative as I get. This is the southwestern chipotle blend.

Wash the veggies and cut them. Because I’m very lazy I’m not going to cook the green beans.  I’m just going to eat them raw, they have a great snap to them. 🙂  I did cook the broccoli and the asparagus after the turkey was done So I could use the same pan. (Saving on dishes and clean up)

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The hardest and the task that takes the longest… find Tupperware and it’s matching cover! BRRR

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Once everything is cooked I weight and measure out the meat and the carbs. But because I am not in prep I don’t measure my veggies, I just make sure I have at least 6-8 cups a day.

Done and cleaned up but 8:08.

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The clean up crew

I know  the plan above seems so easy… THAT’S BECAUSE IT IS.  I get it… we all have the thing(s) that take so much energy to start, but all you need is to get the ball rolling.  (A confession I hate folding and putting laundry away… I have NO energy for that) 😉

I will leave you with  a link below… and yes, this applies to more than just prepping your food.

Keep Moving Forward.